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Early today I was thinking about the thank you notes I got from my co-workers in Thanksgiving. Most of them thanked me for my childishness, my childish behavior, my childish way of facing life, my childish way of making easier their days at he teacher’s lounge.
“Never lose your fresh smile and your childish sense of humor” it was written in one of them.
Well, I must confess I was surprised that being childish is not always a bad thing when you grow up, but I was even more surprised my friends see me that way.
I’ve been struggling all my life with my ups and downs and I assume I still deal with my Downs as a child does, running to cuddle up under protecting wings, and with my Ups, fooling around, dancing, singing no matter where or with whom I am, exactly as a child would do.
Yesterday, I went to do some errands with Sebastian, my older son who is experiencing all the “teenager’s symptoms”. It was quite cold for a summer night so the streets were completely empty. Even though I’ve been feeling down these days, I had the urging need to sing and dance in the middle of the street…you know, carnival atmosphere!!! My son wasn’t so happy though…..MOM stop it!! MOM Please!! MOM stay still!! And since I’m a VERY mature mom I went on by saying “BIENVENIDOS!!! BUENAS NOCHES!!!” Look at the video and see why… (I still don’t know why he got SO angry with me LOL)
When we got home I promised him I would never do that again. Some minutes later he decided to visit a friend who lives two blocks away and as soon as he was near the fence I ran to the door and shouted “Seba!!! BUENAS NOCHES!!” he started running away… but he was laughing….after all he loves his childish mom :)
I’ll be visiting my blogger friends at night, kisses and hugs for all.
6 thought(s):
Welcome back my singing and dancing partner. Is that you dancing at the beginning of the video? You must keep the child in your heart Analia; it helps us to understand our own children; I bet your Sebastian is proud to have such a lovely, all singing, all dancing Mum.
There is a song that says; Stay young and beautiful................I am happy that you my friend will always stay young and beautiful
Big hugs
Rx
MUY BUENOS DÍAS, ANI!
MUY BUENOS DÍAS, ANI!
E para Seba, de un niño aun más viejo de tu Mamita, MUY BUENOS DÍAS, SEBA!!!!
I have just read your visit to me, and believe me, I know where you are coming from, I understand your feelings of 'not strong enough' right now and I think you know that I am in a similar place.
Pienso que voy a escreberte un e-correio más tarde quando pueda.
Meanwhile, please let me give you a little English vocabulary lesson, which is not to patronise you, but to reinforce what you have written here:
The word 'childish' has a pejorative connotation; it is a put-down.
On the other hand, the positive word that explains you, and is what Ruth means about keeping the child in your heart is CHILD-LIKE.
Of course, it is entirely possible for us to have both traits present in our personality. The second is to keep, nurture and encourage, the former is to overcome and diminish.
May you stay forever young. One day, when he's older Seba might understand and love you even more for it. Right now, he's confused; he thinks that you are stealing his terroritory, or his brother's. He expects the lines between the padres generation and his are to be clear, rigid, so that he has something to rebel against. He needs to understand that having a mum like you is to his advantage. You are his ally, his friend. His adolescence and peer-group confuses him by telling him that you are supposed to be the 'enemy'.
Can you handle all these roles? Yes, as long as he knows that he has his space too to do his own growing up and make his own mistakes, but can also come to you when he needs you. Meantime, he will just have to accept that his mum needs to sing & dance and be a (good) kid sometimes. And he must understand that if you did/could change just to make him feel less confused, then he would discover that his mum had turned into a stranger. And he wouldn't want or need that, would he? So you just carry on being you and doing it a tu manera! SXXXXXXXXXXXXXx
PS - I just noticed that I also invented a word above. Maybe George Buffoon Bush would like it. It is 'TERRORITORY'...straight out hot & fresh from the smiles factory! It means the place that teenagers occupy for about 5 years!
PPS - I think these are my first English language blog-comments in about 2 weeks!
Superbrizio or just Fab...FAB!
:-D
Childish moms are definitely good!
A big HI and hug Analia
Loved your post Yes its good to be childlike, never loose that spirit of wonder, awe and fun it has its place.....
I read this last night and really had to fight my Virgo urge for perfection ( Im anything but! ) to explain the difference over here, between childish and childlike, Miles did that perfectly....You have a wisdom Analia that goes way beyond childish, yet that wonderful spirit that keeps shining through no matter what.
Keep strong, you beautiful Momma
Childish OR childlike......we love you!
Rx
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